The first step to overthinking is to ask the right question

Being courageous and start looking in instead of out is an outstanding achievement. But many times, we end up overthinking (I know I do). The key is to ask the right question, and it’s not why. Asking “why” will make us spiral into a loop and trap us into getting stuck. However, asking “what” will make our brain look for solutions. How we start looking within matters. So, if you go out of your comfort zone and look in the mirror of the soul: try to avoid asking why.

Asking “why” might put you into a “victim” mentality and then set yourself up to find explanations that might be bogus. However, asking “what” puts you in a position of power. You release the reasons why and you focus on what you can do next, feel next, do next. Asking “why” keeps you looping within the past, but asking “what” sets you up for the future.

When you dare to look in the mirror, remember to be gentle to yourself. When you step out of your comfort zone, celebrate that you dared to do it. Don’t judge yourself, instead: celebrate! 

Check “Insight: how to succeed by seeing yourself clearly,” [affiliate link] by Tasha Eurich. We tend to have the wrong idea about ourselves, and what’s worse: we tend to find reasons to support those ideas. By changing the question, you change the point of view, and by doing so, you set yourself up to succeed and be happier.