When our fear takes over, everything is dark.
When fear takes over, we stop ourselves from greatness. Ruth Soucuop identified seven different archetypes of fear. You can have one or a mixture of them. Knowing which one is the main one will allow you to be aware and step off your comfort zone.
But, before we begin, be gentle to yourself. We all fear something. It just happens on a subconscious level most of the time. That is why it’s so important to be aware of what’s going on first.
The seven fear archetypes
1. The procrastinator (or “perfection is my surname”)
If you worry about every single detail or performing correctly, this is it. It doesn’t mean it’s terrible, but when we go full mode on it, we could be preventing ourselves from taking action. The fear here is not performing as we would like to or needing to be perfect because we think others want from us. (Or maybe because we’re just afraid of taking action.)
2. The people-pleaser (or “I cannot say no”)
People-pleasers are the best friends, folk that will always be there. While this is good, for these people saying no is very difficult because they fear being left apart. Saying no is like inviting the possibility of being rejected, and that’s horrifying.
3. The rule follower (or “chaos is my foe”)
Rule followers, or control freaks, love going by the book. While this is good in certain circumstances, inflexibility makes them an easy target for fear. Not controlling, not following what’s known is spooky for them. In short, letting go of the unknown and stepping out of the comfort zone is a challenging thing to do.
4. The Outcast (or “I’ll leave before you have the opportunity to hurt me”)
Outcasts put themselves outside of the group before others do. It’s more comfortable to control the pain of being in a corner than actually being told to be in a corner. Although it might seem like an excellent option to control the pain by inflicting it onto ourselves, what we’re actually doing is cutting out our wings even before trying things out.
5. The Self-Doubter (or “I’m pretty sure I’m not enough”)
As a self-doubter, I can testify that this is a hard type. Because you doubt everything that you decide, everything is in the gray area. Of all the types, this is one of the most challenging ones since there’s a core belief of not being enough, which paralyzes and doesn’t allow you to fully enjoy life.
6. The Excuse-Maker (or “it’s never me”)
Unlike self-doubters, excuse-makers do not see the fault in themselves but in others. By mirroring their fears onto someone else, they control their own (or at least, they think so). However, doing this to protect yourself brings you to a-forever victimhood, which won’t leave any room for growth. And that’s the most terrifying side of never taking responsibility for your mistakes.
7. The Pessimist (or “we’re pretty doomed”)
Being a pessimist allows you to control the outcome and ditch fear. However, setting yourself up for the worst-case scenario will prevent you from seeing the happy things in life. Being doomed also entails not being able to change anything and also being a victim.
So, how to solve the issue?
Just being self-aware of our fear is enough to take the next step: forgiveness. By being self-aware and forgiving ourselves we’re ready to step out of our comfort zone, even if sheepishly. Success will be ours only if we’re bold enough to accept our shadow and then being bold by forgiving ourselves. Remember: we’re our worst troll most of the time. We tend to put ourselves down more often and in a harsher way than others do.
So, be brave and look within. What does scare you? What archetype (or a mixture of them) are you?
When you discover what fear(s) are stopping you, then don’t fight them. Just forgive, then release and prepare yourself for greatness.
You can find more information about the issue in Ruth Soukup’s book “Do It Scared: Finding the Courage to Face Your Fears, Overcome Adversity, and Create a Life You Love” [Affiliate link].